An Extension, Not a Beginning.. 2வது இளவரசனை இப்படித்தான் வரவேற்றோம்!

- Written by V Durgadevi

My second pregnancy never felt like a beginning.

There was barely any gap after my first delivery—my body still carried the weight of pain, recovery, and memory. Before I could return to myself, I was already carrying another life. It felt less like a new journey and more like a continuation—an extension, almost like version 2.1 of the same story.

Each month echoed the first pregnancy. The same changes, the same sensations—nothing unfamiliar, nothing alarming. That familiarity took away fear. I moved through those months with quiet confidence, doing all kinds of work, rarely pausing to think about the life growing within me.

My first pregnancy had been filled with care. I stayed at my mother’s home, surrounded by rest, nourishment, and attention. But the second time was different. My first child was still an infant, needing constant care. My days were spent holding one baby, while the other waited silently within me. In that rush, I often forgot I was pregnant at all.

Labor began on a Saturday morning, around 5 a.m. The pain was mild, familiar. We already had a doctor’s appointment that day, so I waited. After examining me, the doctor said, “You need to get admitted. Labor has started.”

But I didn’t feel urgency.

From my first experience, I believed it would take many hours. So I stepped out of the hospital, had a bottle of Maaza—my constant companion through both pregnancies—and carried on as if there was still time.

We went to a relative’s house. As the hours passed, the pain grew stronger, but I kept dismissing it. My grandmother urged me to go to the hospital, her voice filled with concern. Still, I delayed.

On the way, I even insisted on visiting a local exhibition. It was July, and the place was alive with movement and noise. I walked through it until evening, contractions coming and going, trusting my past experience more than the present moment.

Finally, around 6:30 p.m., I agreed to go.

Even the journey told its own story.

For my first delivery, we had booked a car and gone with care and planning.

For the second, I went in a bus.

Somewhere between those two journeys, life had quietly changed.

At the hospital, another unexpected turn awaited me.

My mother—who was meant to be by my side—had been admitted for emergency surgery. Doctors had discovered fibroids that needed immediate removal, and the situation was critical. They warned that even a small complication could be dangerous. In an instant, everything shifted.

The person I depended on most was being taken into the operation theatre while I was being led into the delivery ward. My thoughts, even in labor, were with her.

My aunt arrived to support her, and I entered the ward with my grandmother. But it wasn’t the same. I felt the absence deeply. The ward itself was a large general space, with ten to fifteen women, separated only by thin screens. A few nurses moved between patients, attending to everyone.

For a while, they were near me.

And then, suddenly, an emergency arose in the opposite ward.

All the nurses rushed away.

In that unexpected stillness, something remarkable happened.

Amid the distant noise and urgency, my baby arrived—as if drawn into the world by that very moment. Before anyone could return, I had already delivered.

For a brief second, it was just me and my newborn.

No doctor. No guiding voice. No hands to hold.

Only after I called out did the nurses rush back and take over.

A baby boy was born.

My first delivery had been guided with extraordinary care by a doctor who stayed closely involved throughout. This time, that doctor was abroad. A male doctor was assigned, but he wasn’t present at the moment of birth. The experience was entirely different—less attended, less structured, and yet deeply real.

Even in that moment of new life, my heart was elsewhere.

I waited for news about my mother.

When I finally heard that her surgery was successful and the fibroids had been safely removed, a wave of relief settled over me.

Returning home brought yet another contrast.

After my first delivery, I had months of complete rest.

After my second, there was no pause.

My mother needed recovery herself. There was no one else to take over. Within days, I stepped back into my routine—managing the home, caring for two children, and continuing life as though nothing extraordinary had happened.

No rest.

No stillness.

Just movement.

And yet, life went on.

This journey taught me something I could never have learned otherwise: life never repeats itself in the same way. Even when situations seem identical, the experience changes—the people, the support, the strength within you.

You may expect the same care, the same path, the same outcome.

But life has its own design.

It brings unexpected turns at the most expected moments.

And in those moments, you don’t wait for things to be perfect.

You simply rise, adjust, and move forward.

That is life.

(வ துர்காதேவி, பட்டதாரி ஆசிரியர், அரசு உயர்நிலை பள்ளி-நெசல், திருவண்ணாமலை)

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